[Adapted from my hardcopy monthly column, For Goodness' Sake, in Front Porch Magazine]

“I don’t think we understood the cultural, historic influences that pushed them into that position. It might have helped us ward the whole thing off if we had understood the deeper currents in the situation.”

The above quote is attributed to Stansfield Turner, CIA Director during the Carter administration. Recorded in 1995, in this comment he was reflecting back on the 1979 Soviet invasion of Afghanistan. (Invisible History – Afghanistan’s Untold Story exposes the mind-boggling complexity of Afghanistan’s internal and external influences over the century and a half preceding that invasion, which resulted in tremendous suffering and loss on many sides during a ten-year struggle.)

My current mission here is winding down. Anticipating what will likely be several more years of traveling into and out of this troubled nation, I have been studying more about the circumstances which led to today’s mess in Afghanistan.

The opening quote by Director Turner hit like an intellectual boot to the head. Regular readers of For Goodness’ Sake will recognize that cultural awareness is frequently highlighted in this column; this isn’t a nice-to-have component of effective war and peace planning, it’s an essential piece. In Powerful Peace, we constantly explore the value of understanding other ways of life – a very real matter of life or death.

The Soviet adventure in Afghanistan finally ended in bitter defeat, with the Soviets having met exactly the same fate as every other invader since Alexander the Great. Their experience is frequently compared to the American conflict in Vietnam.

I’d like to provide a much more personal and therefore recognizable anecdote to demonstrate the dangerous absurdity of conflict based on mutual misunderstanding:

Ali was a friend of mine during a year’s assignment in Turkey. We enjoyed spending time at a restaurant hangout down by the beach, so his unexpected hostility one fateful night came as a complete shock.

There was a Dutch tourist staying in our little coastal town, and it was no secret that Ali also had his eye on her. When I finally arranged a dinner date one night, I naturally felt like the winner of the Jack-Ali competition for female attention. It was probably a mistake to arrange that dinner date for the same club where we normally partied.

While she and I snacked on feta cheese and olives, I clumsily made small talk and the discussion – ridiculously – turned to astrology (as in, “what’s your sign?”) Unfortunately, this European had only a partial grasp of English, and I only knew two phrases in Dutch. Neither was appropriate for polite conversation.

When I said I’m a Taurus, it earned only a blank stare. The word “bull” fell flat next, and when “boy cow” failed I realized my attempt at a clever joke was rapidly careening off a social cliff. It was time for date-saving physical gestures.

Extending my index fingers, I placed them alongside my temples to depict a boy cow’s horns. That’s when all Turkish hell broke loose.

Within seconds, Ali was at my side and striking me in the shoulder. I hadn’t even known he was at the club that night! He shouted, “Did you do this to me???” and placed his fingers at his own temples.

I was baffled. My date was frightened. I rose to my feet and, in broken Turkish, told him I didn’t know what the blank he was talking about. This seemed to aggravate him further, but it ended peacefully. After a couple of tense minutes, Ali stalked away. The dinner was ruined.

As I had planned to stay on the beach that evening, it ended up being a one-eye-open, sleepless night. Angry Turkish knives can slice tent fabric as easily as a throat.

When I raised the matter with best friend Hayri the next day, he was aghast. After extensive explanation, I finally came to understand that the Turkish verb “to gore” (boynuzlemek) means, colloquially, “to cheat on your man”. In other words, if a fellow isn’t man enough to keep a girl happy, she will go off with another, leaving the first “gored”.

Ali thought we were talking about and laughing at him!

Of course, the potential for a fistfight is a weak comparison to the immeasurable pain endured during the ill-fated Soviet invasion of Afghanistan, but the dynamic is fundamentally the same. If you would make your own life easier, begin by considering your impact on others.

And be very careful with hand gestures!

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[adapted from my monthly column, For Goodness' Sake, in Front Porch Magazine]

Thank God for emergencies. Sometimes that’s the only way we humans can stand to be nice to each other.

In the 1960’s comedy classic, “The Russians are Coming! The Russians are Coming!“, a handful of Soviet submariners is forced ashore on a tiny New England island. One hilarity leads to another as they sneak around, trying to make their way back to the Motherland. Before long, little old ladies are wailing about waves of invading Russian parachutists while the sheriff struggles to restore order. (Jonathan Winters is priceless as the blustering deputy who shouts to “organize” amid the mayhem.)

While I won’t ruin the film by telling all the good bits or the ending, I’ll say that this movie illustrates the unifying power of crisis. Many guns are pointed at many people, and we see ordinarily adversarial relationships healed by moments of need.

It’s a shame, but sometimes we need such an urgent, common cause to get out of our own heads.

We read that the Titanic tragedy was another example of the finer qualities of humanity shining forth, when men unanimously assisted women and children onto the limited number of rafts in the sure knowledge that they themselves would perish. (Well, unanimously except for that one sleazy weasel, or sleazel, who was trying to get Leonardo’s girlfriend – but we all saw that coming!)

The massive recovery effort for September 11th involved thousands of dissimilar individuals. We didn’t hear of people refusing to pull a broken survivor from the rubble because he was of the wrong complexion, faith, or political party. When billions of global citizens and their leaders stood to condemn the monstrous evil of those attacks, there was a pause in rivalries…a pause in mindless self interest.

Wouldn’t we like to feel that again, but without the senseless loss of innocent life? Wouldn’t it be nice to rise above our perpetual squabbling over stale bread crusts and focus instead on cooperatively making truckloads of fresh loaves?

I have criticized Congress for its divisive diversions in running this country. Granted, it’s an easy target, but isn’t this justifiably so? After all, don’t those lofty seats exist not as the privileged rulers of a nation of subjects, but as the first servants of all others in this great experiment of democracy?

The partisan Senate vote is a pitiful sight. Such vast power spent opposing the other and protecting political territory. Could not that tremendous energy be harnessed to press forward, instead of sideways?

I’ll continue to challenge our legislators when they don’t serve us – at least until I become a member myself…at which point I’ll dig deep for the courage to be still more critical of Congress and all national leaders, for the benefit of all.

I write For Goodness’ Sake and PowerfulPeace.net because I believe it is possible to work together without crisis. In fact, I’ve watched it happen - and helped it happen - in dozens of countries around the world.

We have the capacity to look beneath the surface of another, whether from our point of view he has too many earrings or not enough, and discover that person’s unique potential. In practice, however, it is much more common to judge the book by its cover.

Here’s the punch line! I am the first victim of my contempting another. I discard a person who might otherwise be able to help me at some point. Is this casual contempt based on his appearance, or some affiliation?

Am I not then perpetuating partisan thinking?

Besides the obvious abandonment of that person’s potential positive contribution in my life, I also invite negative feedback/retaliation from anyone that I disregard or mistreat.

How stupid can one person be? And yet we do it…by the billions.

I propose that we practice Smart Power at the individual level. Let’s open our minds, look for the value in those unlike ourselves, and discover how alike we are. This is “smart power to the people”.

We can work together without depending on crisis for motivation. At some point, this cooperation even averts some crisis.

And finally, there is just one more thing: get a copy of “The Russians are Coming! The Russians are Coming!” Seriously. You could use a good laugh.

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We want to tell our children that monsters don’t exist - and mean it. As long as we keep a mental picture of Frankenstein’s fictional lab project or a nice, tidy Dracula, this is the truth. Unfortunately, Bela Lugosi’s famously overpainted vampire face is only a popular reflection of a man who really lived long ago, who really did very bad things to people.

Vlad the Impaler was known for his gruesome treatment of enemies, slaves, and innocent passers-by, and it’s partly his history that informs the movie monsters of today. Just think: somebody in the world was his nearest neighbor. (If a news crew had come to the neighbor’s door, you know what you’d hear: “Vlad was always a quiet man; kept to himself.”)

Jeffrey Dahmer had a next-door neighbor, and so did every other cannibalistic, necrophiliac serial killer who ever lived.

Today Austria locked up a man from a nice neighborhood who had locked up his pretty, teenaged daughter…locked her up at the age of 18 in a slave quarters in the basement of the home he shared with his unwitting wife…locked her up for twenty-four years…so he could rape her…3,000 times…fathering seven children from his own child…and ultimately, murdering one of his infant sons/grandsons through depriving medical care when the boy experienced respiratory distress.

This man went so far as to adopt three of his children/grandchildren with his wife, as a “concerned family member” of his “runaway” daughter…the other three children never once saw the light of the sun all the years of their pitiful lives, until last year’s rescue.

As I’ve said many times, Powerful Peace is not about peace, love and harmony on a fantastical Utopian plane. It is about the hard, cold reality that we never have and never will all get along – but that biting back our biting words and holding back our eager fists is the only true way to open a little space that can permit us to break the cycle of violence. When I react to provocation I invite retaliation; retaliation, which harms my loved ones and myself…. The pattern is ridiculously obvious, yet we foolish humans leap repeatedly, willingly into tit-for-tat office squabbles and international bloodbaths.

The key lesson, as always, is that Smart Power is composed of a balance of hard (or forceful), and soft (or attractive) powers. Again, as you’ve read here extensively, the flaw of ordinary peace movements is in believing that love and tolerance can solve every conflict. These ideals are absolutely the higher way, and must be pursued with all our energy – but they won’t stop the sweating, summertime-parka-wearing young man with desperate eyes as he walks briskly toward your checkpoint. A bullet is required to stop a suicide bomber.

There are very bad things in the world, and bad things are required to deal with some of them. There are suicide attackers who cannot be stopped with dialogue or even threats – after all, what would constitute an effective threat against a man who plans to take his own life within a few seconds?

The bad things include people we will never fully understand. Denying their reality would be to wander away from the courageous stance of Powerful Peace - which faces reality on reality’s terms.

Be a little more mindful of strangers, and hug your children a little tighter than usual this evening.

And for God’s sake, please - please - preserve their fleeting, fragile innocence…keep telling them that monsters aren’t real.

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“Our most basic common link is that we all inhabit this planet. We all breathe the same air. We all cherish our children’s future. And we all are mortal.”             - J. F. Kennedy

Powerful Peace is not for the faint of heart.

Powerful Peace is not for those who default to ”Evade” when the going gets rough. It’s not for those who are unwilling to dare, and risk, for what’s right.

Powerful Peace is not for wimps. Shame and regret is for wimps. Powerful Peace is for heroes – little heroes and big heroes - of all shapes, colors, and backgrounds.

During my Navy years, we lived according to the Navy “Core Values” of Honor, Courage, and Commitment. I strongly supported those values then, and they serve as a sound foundation for P2 now. I believe, however, that clarification is necessary lest these life-giving terms diminish into a two-dimensional, military sense for a society raised on war movies.

Honor is much larger than the blood-boiling cinematic thrills of a mortally-wounded Spartan king standing defiantly against overwhelming Persian might, surrounded by the carnage of his fallen soldiers. (That’s very cool, however; 300 is one of my favorite Hero Guy movies.)

Honor is a precious gift, and uniquely human. It is a silent, powerful guide in the heart of man and woman.

As with all virtues, honor also can be perverted - into such concepts as the unbelievable spectacle of ”honor killings”, in which a young woman’s male relatives (we’re talking brothers and even her own father) personally murder the girl for such offenses as having been raped.

Walk with me for a moment into a horror in the name of honor that you (I pray) can not imagine. This is extracted from a National Geographic article:
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Thousands of Women Killed for Family “Honor“

Hillary Mayell
February 12, 2002

“Hundreds, if not thousands, of women are murdered by their families each year in the name of family ‘honor‘.

“‘Most honor killings occur in countries where the concept of women as a vessel of the family reputation predominates,’ said Marsha Freemen….

“But while honor killings have elicited considerable attention and outrage, human rights activists argue that they should be regarded as part of a much larger problem of violence against women.

“In India, for example, more than 5,000 brides die annually because their dowries are considered insufficient, according to the United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF).

“Amnesty International has reported on one case in which a husband murdered his wife based on a dream that she had betrayed him.

“In Turkey, a young woman’s throat was slit in the town square because a love ballad had been dedicated to her over the radio.

“Even victims of rape are vulnerable. In a widely reported case in March of 1999, a 16-year-old mentally retarded girl who was raped in the Northwest Frontier province of Pakistan was turned over to her tribe’s judicial council. Even though the crime was reported to the police and the perpetrator was arrested, the Pathan tribesmen decided that she had brought shame to her tribe and she was killed in front of a tribal gathering.

“In Jordan, if a woman is afraid that her family wants to kill her, she can check herself into the local prison, but she can’t check herself out…

“…and the only person who can get her out is a male relative…

“…who is frequently the person who poses the threat.”

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This is not honor.

This is the enemy of honor. This is us, in all our incredible shame. Can’t we see that this is madness - an irrational, pride-based, human construct of tradition? Is there any rational argument for this tragedy?

We in the United States are no freer from personal failings than any other. After all, we have become proficient at drowning our children, and hey – we invented the abortion clinic bombing! (Funny…I don’t remember any verses, even with all the dirty, low-down people he encountered, in which Jesus advocated terrorism and murder.)

Powerful Peace requires tremendous courage and commitment to fight; not against the flawed human being across the sea from our flawed selves (often the scapegoat for our hidden sin), but the flaws within us and our human family. It’s a beginning.

Of course my SEAL brothers still in the service have to fight, while there is terror, torture, and massacre to resist; and this, using the tools we have available. But while they sacrifice in the service, we must be at least equally engaged to build toward that better society. (I say “toward”, so that fewer will label me a utopian. It is all too simple to disregard an entire point of view, if inconvenient to our worldview, by attacking a strand of the whole tapestry as being unrealistic.)

For this discussion, Honor will more purely mean honoring life. Honoring our humanity. We honor the undeniable heart’s tug that every race knows, in cradling a sleeping baby or seeing the unguarded admiration in a lover’s eyes. These are aspects of humanity that define what we truly are. These feelings are as natural and human as sleep, hunger, and thirst. They are the “basic common link” that President Kennedy identified as our starting point.

Why don’t we pour our energy into the stuff we agree on?

I’ve rattled on long enough.

I challenge the reader to Comment – we still need powerful definitions for courage and commitment.

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(Here is the second half of “Smart Power in US Diplomacy”. If you didn’t read yesterday’s installment, just scroll down to the previous post to pick it up from the beginning.)

Smart Power in US Diplomacy (Part 2 of 2)

By Kaitlin MacKenzie, JTW

Furthermore, it is of paramount importance that Obama has stated his intent to open lines of communication with governments, such as Cuba and Iran, with whom the previous administration refused relations. His decision to grant his first formal interview since becoming president to the Arabic satellite station Al Arabiya is extremely symbolic. Using this opportunity to speak to the Muslim world about a new relationship based on mutual respect, and placing strong emphasis on his administration’s willingness to listen, rather than dictate, Obama told Al Arabiya television “I do think that it is important for us to be willing to talk to Iran, to express very clearly where our differences are, but where there are potential avenues for progress. And we will over the next several months be laying out our general framework and approach. And as I said during my inauguration speech, if countries like Iran are willing to unclench their fist, they will find an extended hand from us.” Further signs of the administration’s intentions regarding Iran can be found in the new US Ambassador to the UN Susan Rice’s statement that the US will seek direct diplomacy, as well as in Obama’s use of the phrase “mutual respect,” which is an oft repeated and significant term in Iran.

Despite the Obama administration’s efforts to mend US relations, however, improving the current state of affairs requires other states’ willingness to cooperate, and it remains to be seen how much of the Bush administration’s work is irreversible. While the new president has extended a hand, it remains to be seen if others will accept it. For example, Iran’s Ayatollah Ahmad Jannati, a staunch supporter of president Mahmoud Ahmadinejad, stated, “I am warning some of society’s most abandoned and hated groups, who are intending to establish relations with the US, want to meet with Obama and give the US president a green light: do not go in this direction. You are just troublemakers. Do not damage yourselves more. Do not rely on America and do not hurt people.”

All negativities aside, though, the new administration’s return to diplomacy is a refreshing change from the past 8 years’ reliance on hard power. In line with the idea of smart power, Obama’s actions indicate his view that public diplomacy is about engaging foreign powers earnestly and directly, and taking time to listen and explain, rather than turning swiftly to the use of force. It appears that he prefers a more measured approach and understands that “people are going to judge me not by my words, but by my actions and my administration’s actions.” One hopes the US will promote itself through prudent public diplomacy and the persuasive influence of its ideals, instead of acting irrationally, and becoming further mired in conflict.

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I am delighted to provide you the following outstanding discussion of the meaning of ”smart power” in the international arena. This little gem turned up in my research this evening in Iraq, but was originally published almost one month ago by the Journal of Turkish Weekly.

Due to space constraints, I will be posting the second half of this article tomorrow.

Enjoy!

Smart Power in US Diplomacy (Part 1 of 2)

By Kaitlin MacKenzie, JTW

Hillary Clinton, the new US Secretary of State, has made “smart power’ the new foreign policy buzzword, using the phrase several times during her recent Senate confirmation hearing. Speaking before the Senate Committee on Foreign Relations, Mrs. Clinton repeatedly stressed the need for a more balanced foreign policy to reduce the role of the military and encourage diplomacy, the use of sanctions, and strengthen alliances – measures that would attempt to humanize the US and restore its reputation.

Although these strategies are nothing new to the diplomatic world, the emphasis here lies in their combination: the judicious balance between the use of soft power, in which a country obtains its goals through the power of attraction, and hard power, like coercion or military force, was deemed “smart power’ by Suzanne Nossel in her 2004 Foreign Affairs article bearing the same name. She argues that the Bush administration adopted the progressive theory of liberal internationalism in name only, leaving behind the doctrine’s central tenets and ideals – a wolf in sheep’s clothing – and under this banner proceeded to justify its imperious behavior and diplomatic snubs. The theory of liberal internationalism holds that the US should promote a wide range of goals, from human rights and democracy to free trade and economic development, through diplomatic, economic, and military leadership. Nossel asserts that, “Unlike conservatives, who rely on military power as the main tool of statecraft, liberal internationalists see trade, diplomacy, foreign aid, and the spread of American values as equally important.”

In this sense, smart power is realizing that the most effective means are not always those of US action, but are rather those which utilize alliances and international institutions. The US’ interests are often best furthered through careful diplomacy and the power of its ideas.

The Bush administration favored the use of hard power and, despite its later shift towards more diplomatic measures, left a slew of foreign policy issues for the Obama administration to tackle. The administration’s actions strained US alliances and added stress to NATO with its mismanagement of the war in Afghanistan. Its decisions to condone torture and open prisons defying the Geneva Conventions, not to mention its invasion of Iraq, have seriously tarnished the US’ reputation abroad and defiled aspects of the US Constitution. Thus smart power, as advocated by Nossel, becomes relevant for Obama and Clinton, who have repeatedly stressed the urgent need for, and importance of, democracy and other non-military means in the new US foreign policy.

While many are skeptical of what changes the Obama administration will bring, the new president has begun undoing his predecessor’s damage in earnest. Already he has issued executive orders to close Guantanamo Bay within one year, banning the use of torture, and closing the secret CIA prisons. And, his Justice Department appointees, especially Attorney General Eric Holder, have strong records of speaking out against the Bush administration’s use of torture, a sign that these policies have no place in the Obama administration.

[concluded in next post]

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Okay, that did it. Now I’m outraged.

Very little upsets my applecart. Where some individuals will react to every little slight and challenge, I tend to look at a person who differs from me as a learning opportunity. It is fundamental to the understanding of Powerful Peace that not one of us knows everything; thus every one of us can teach something.

Where my high-falutin’ ideals break down, however, is in the realm of ego and petty authority flexing…under life-and-death conditions.

Out here in Iraq, where I’ve spent the past year, people are really dying. They’re dying less now, thank God, but dying nonetheless. They’re dying as a direct result of the fighting going on in a struggle for supremacy between various factions. Some of those dying, still, are innocent children.

In theory, each of us involved in prosecuting – and concluding – this conflict is on the same team and shares a sense of urgency in our responsibilities.

In theory.

Contrast such a shared urgency (and corresponding willingness to cooperate/compromise where necessary) with the petty tyrant. This person may be in a position of some authority or just a little. Typically, the petty tyrant is not an actual commander, but a pretender who thinks his obstructive behavior is commander-ly.

I was Roadblocked briefly this week by a petty tyrant who called to inform my team that he would not be “authorizing” a particular piece of infrastructure we require. Behind the safety of the telephone line, he puffed his chest up a little at the other end. This petty tyrant, little more than a clerk in a big uniform, was getting off on denying something.

Flash forward to a potential outcome. This piece of infrastructure (communications, power or transportation, for example) is required by a team (commandos, Info Tech or logistics, for example) to complete its mission. A petty tyrant successfully denies its issuance. The mission (a raid, satellite dish installation or food delivery, for example) is not accomplished. This denial of basic functionality is a casualty of some punk’s desire to be important. Mission readiness is diminished.

To take the analogy a little farther, imagine that this denial is enough to cause a raid to be abandoned.

The Bad Man who would have been captured is permitted to operate freely for a few more weeks. In that time he executes a car bomb attack against an Iraqi Police station. Seven dead daddies never again go home to their families. One dead commander will never take the lead in a major overhaul of a corrupt security force. A neighborhood is left undefended, and many more die, during the year it takes to rebuild the station.

Oh, and by the way – in the adjacent girls’ school, six little daughters are destroyed as their parents have only barely begun to dream about their futures. See my earlier Posts War is Good and Why I Exist.

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Have you ever watched a funeral conducted by a culture and in a language different from your own? A lot of the trappings may have been foreign to you, like details of colors and costs and casket-vs-cremation.

The words spoken over the departed would have certainly been different from your experience. There may have been such cultural distinctions as loud wailing on one hand, and despondent silence on the other, from the assembly.

Here in Iraq, for example, the citizens typically behave differently when burying their loved ones than my family does in the US.

Far more importantly, however, what was not different? The “Smart Power to the People” of Powerful Peace always seeks to find our common ground as a starting point for conflict reduction despite the innumerable layers of social norms we have developed over millenia.

Of those moved to tears at this foreign funeral, those whose grief exceeded their capacity to form speech, did you notice that the men wept differently from your own? Did their rasping, choked expressions of unbearable emotional agony have some unusual accent compared to those in your country?

Is there any sight quite as heartbreaking as an otherwise powerful man utterly helpless, devastated, crying like a baby?

Did the inconsolable shrieks and sobs of the women, lamenting over their beloved partners or children, somehow lack enough clarity for you to understand what they meant?

I suspect not.

On the other hand:

Have you ever watched a baby from a foreign culture laugh?

How about an adult, guffawing without guile at a particularly suprising moment of hilarity? I’m talking about the deep, genuine belly laugh that comes without warning and cannot be modulated.

It’s pretty much the same as yours, isn’t it? Ain’t nobody saying nothing…but the message comes through loud and clear.

The point of all this is that these moments of sincere natural-ness illustrate a level of humanity that we can observe is universal. Sex…hunger…fatigue….the core of humankind is one, no matter how various our complexions or how tall “our people” typically grow.

Try to consider these things the next time you get that inexplicable feeling of dislike for another that you can’t quite put your finger on. It might just be your layers grating against his. If you take a moment to imagine his common pain or joy, you might begin to recognize your brother - disguised in a strange costume.

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Pop Quiz:

1. I drove my car while I was drunk, and I was pulled over and arrested. Who is to blame for the detention and fines that turned out to be a serious hassle?a) Society is
b) My parents are
c) I am
d) Those meddling cops are

2. I poured a kettle of boiling water over my leg, and suddenly experienced severe pain and some blistering. Who is to blame for this injustice?

a) The people at the water company are
b) I am
c) The manufacturers of the kettle with inadequate safety markings are
d) Those meddling cops are

3. I stomped into a foreign country, demanding that those who were there treat me specially because I’m an American and people should just deal with it. The locals began to treat me with disrespect and I quickly realized that they were starting to serve me a little slower, a little less enthusiastically, and without a smile. Who is responsible for this outrage?

a) I am
b) The local national President or Prime Minister is
c) The stupid local population is
d) Those meddling cops are!

 If you answered 1 – c; 2 – b; and 3 – a, you got a perfect score!

It’s not cliche to say that “what goes around comes around”. Well, okay, maybe that is a cliche, but the important thing to recognize is that cliches are often based on objective reality. Obviously, although many an arrested lawbreaker blames the arresting officers, the guilty party chose a behavior with full knowledge of the potential consequences.

In the hilarious film, “Liar, Liar”, Jim Carrey plays a top-shelf defense attorney who is incapable of lying for one 24-hour period. When he’s called by a career thug/client who’s been locked up again and the fellow asks for legal advise, this lawyer replies with brutal honesty, “You want some legal advise? Stop breaking the law, a$$#0£3!”

Couldn’t we all do with a such valuable legal advice? I don’t mean that we are all career thugs, but that we all (to some extent) go against what we know is right and then find ourselves asking what went wrong. We all (to some extent) find ourselves from time to time on the wrong side of a friend, loved one, or complete stranger and begin casting about for their part in the matter. Smart Power begins with the self.

Here’s another way to put it: have you ever had a strong, negative reaction to a person’s unacceptable behavior and then said that the person really made you angry? Well, if you are willing to blame him for causing that reaction in you, I’m sure you’ll be willing to acknowledge that you may have caused the same in someone else. In other words, it follows that at some time during your life you will have “really made someone angry”.

Now look at the implication. He wasn’t angry, then you did something, and he became angry as a result. You created an angry person from a not-angry one. You created the reality of having an angry person near you, and you created the reality of whatever transpired as a result of that. Did he yell at you? Did he kick you in the knee? Did he make fun of the car you drive?

You created that negative event, whatever it was. If you had chosen some other behavior, one that would not have “made” him angry, you wouldn’t have your feelings, knee, or pride hurt. You created your own hurt.

Many of my readers will say, “Oh, yeah, that makes sense.” They’ll ponder this idea and come to the conclusion that a little more mindfulness of our effect on others might go a long way – not necessarily for the benefit of the others, but for our own! Being decent to others, therefore, is in my own self interest, regardless of the fact that it improves the lives of others.

Smart Power, then, or Powerful Peace, is a way of making my personal environment better – extended to global relations, it seems obvious that the same principles can ease at least a little of the sometimes explosive clash of cultures.

 If, on the other hand, you think this is a load of hogwash and it makes you angry…please don’t kick me in the knee.

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[Adapted from the February edition of my other column, For Goodness' Sake. Read previous FGS's by "Searching" for "For Goodness..." on our archive page at: Front Porch Magazine.]

Smart Power

PowerfulPeace.NET remains fiercely apolitical – our only partisanship is omnipartisan, in order to best harness the many common interests of all sides. DC started out the year in a similarly friendly mood.

I met Senator John Kerry at the airport during my Christmas R&R home from Baghdad. He was very receptive as I offered my business card and my willingness to contribute to our government’s evolved way ahead in counterterrorism, with Smart Power at the fore.

With this clumsy and obvious segue to the Democratic Senator from Massachusetts out of the way, let us consider his opening remarks during January’s Secretary of State Confirmation Hearing:

“In the last seven years, we have spent the treasure of our nation…to fight terrorism, and yet grave questions remain as to whether or not we have chosen our battles correctly.

“It is clear that no amount of additional troops will succeed absent the effective instruments of a functioning state [in Afghanistan]… I believe we must fundamentally redefine our approach.”

(…We must fundamentally redefine our approach.)

The Republican Senator Lugar was quoted in the same hearing: “The United States cannot feed every person… or stop every conflict, but our power and status have conferred upon us a tremendous responsibility to humanity.”

(…Our power and status have conferred upon us a tremendous responsibility to humanity.)

In her opening comments, Democrat Secretary of State Clinton referenced Secretary of Defense Robert Gates (appointed by the Republican President George W. Bush): “Secretary Gates… has been particularly eloquent in articulating the importance of diplomacy…. As he has stated, ‘Our civilian institutions of diplomacy and development have been chronically undermanned and underfunded for far too long.’”

Finally, she added:

“We must use what has been called smart power, the full range of tools at our disposal — diplomatic, economic, military, political, legal, and cultural — picking the right tool or combination of tools for each situation. Even when we cannot fully agree with some governments we share a bond of humanity with their people… Investing in our common humanity through social development is not marginal to our foreign policy but essential to the realization of our goals… Our pleas will fall on deaf ears unless democracy actually improves people’s lives….”

So, to summarize: we have a flood of brand-new, bipartisan attention to smart power (powerful peace), with an urgent need to develop societies and engage diplomatically to fight terrorism and conflict.

Please review the following, originally written by yours truly in 2003 and posted at PowerfulPeace.net in July of 2008:

“What is crucial is a case-by-case use of the most effective methods for each problem. Some crises of hostility can be resolved with dialogue to reduce misunderstanding; some, for now, still demand a ‘kinetic solution’ from the business end of a rifle… Best of all, however, will be the next evolution of threat mitigation: elimination, before the hateful cause exists, by working with the source… If we care to understand well enough, open exchange and cooperation can starve the very roots of terrorism. Statecraft and interpersonal engagement are more important, in the long run, than military might.”

That’s smart power, written five years before this election… Let’s continue to lead from the bottom with an active Powerful Peace Network. Eventually, the policy makers can catch up!